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Monday, December 24, 2012
Like this one
and since I'm typically unoriginal with coming up with my own stuff these days, I will share this with you.
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Friday, December 21, 2012
May be a repeat
but like will this situation matter five days from now, it bears another mention.
I am so thankful the weekend is here again.
And that we appear to have made it through the end of the world LOL.
I have much to do over the next several days.
I've done almost no Christmas shopping.
Just haven't been into it this year for some reason ;).
I plan to shop mostly local though.
I'm going to purchase mainly restaurant gift cards for the people on my list.
I think these will make a nice present, since so many of us rarely have a night out.
Also maybe a simple outfit or accessory for some others.
I am working on Christmas Eve and then we go to my inlaws for Italian Feast of the Fishes.
I usually host brunch on Christmas Day, and then make a lasagna for dinner (Note: Use no-cook noodles and no one will know the difference).
What about you guys?
What are your plans for the holidays?
Did you finish all of your shopping?
I am so thankful the weekend is here again.
And that we appear to have made it through the end of the world LOL.
I have much to do over the next several days.
I've done almost no Christmas shopping.
Just haven't been into it this year for some reason ;).
I plan to shop mostly local though.
I'm going to purchase mainly restaurant gift cards for the people on my list.
I think these will make a nice present, since so many of us rarely have a night out.
Also maybe a simple outfit or accessory for some others.
I am working on Christmas Eve and then we go to my inlaws for Italian Feast of the Fishes.
I usually host brunch on Christmas Day, and then make a lasagna for dinner (Note: Use no-cook noodles and no one will know the difference).
What about you guys?
What are your plans for the holidays?
Did you finish all of your shopping?
Saturday, December 15, 2012
Monday, December 10, 2012
Fitting
An oldie but goodie. So fitting after the recent hurricane. And perfect for a rainy, blah Monday morning. Have a good one all. 
Saturday, December 8, 2012
I've moved back in!
"The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned." ~~ Maya Angelou
Tuesday, December 4, 2012
Sunday, December 2, 2012
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Does this scream social work, or what?
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I got an email the other day from my student loan company, that since I live in the area affected by the hurricane, I am welcome to put my payments on hold. With interest of course ;). Fortunately, since my monthly payment is pretty affordable, I will pass on this one.
We are making steady progress on getting back in the house (although it still feels as slow as paying off my student loan LOL).
Electrician is supposed to come out today.
Hopefully boiler will be on by tonight. YAY HEAT AGAIN!!!!!
I was originally thinking we would be able to move back by the end of the weekend, but the hot water heater still has to be installed.
I can't do cold showers and boiling water takes too long in my world so we may end up waiting until next weekend if everything is working again. I don't think the water heater will be in til' sometime during the week.
I still need to do a huge deep clean because everything remains a complete mess. I kinda want steaming water for that too, because maybe it's just in my head, but I don't feel things will be really clean and sanitized without it. I found muddy handprints going down the hallway earlier this week. And for once, they are not from my son.
Friday, November 30, 2012
Easy and almost free way to help Sandy victims
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If you are able to help, it would be much appreciated. Also please feel free to share this link with others. You can also follow on Twitter @BeyondSandy.
Happy weekending!!
Monday, November 26, 2012
Tomorrow
we are supposed to have our boiler installed.
*Happy dance*.
Keep your fingers crossed for us.
*Happy dance*.
Keep your fingers crossed for us.
Sunday, November 25, 2012
Itching
So we've been displaced by Sandy for almost a month, and I am ITCHING so badly to go home.
The time has flown by, but at the same time, it feels like it has been standing still.
I am so, so anxious to just get back into my house, and back into my OWN structure and routine.
We've been staying at my inlaws, and for the past several days, with my parents.
I am SO tired of living out of laundry baskets (the easiest item to just throw a lot of clothes into)and stopping home on occasion if there's something I want that pops into my mind.
I miss my closet and getting up and making coffee in my own kitchen.
My house is currently upside down and this weighs on my mind too, as I like things as neat and clean as possible.
I can also tell that it's stressful on our hosts, being a guest in their home. They've also recently had some other stressors thrown onto them in the form of another unexpected house guest.
DS is also for the most part, pretty bonkers, since he has not had a great deal of structure and routine, and also, he does not understand at all what is going on. He randomly tells people he misses his house, it's broken and he wants to go home.
For more stress, DH is totally motivated to begin the rest of the work to update our home we've talked about way before Sandy. He wants to put in a new kitchen, move our front door, knock down a wall in our living room and put in new windows and siding. His reasoning is that "there's no time like the present."
I go back and forth about this with him. Especially since it's now super cold out and I already feel so stressed out and on edge about not being home. Plus, this is not really a decision I feel like we've had TIME to plan for.........it's just basically been sprung upon us. I don't really like the idea of having to stay with our inlaws for an undetermined period of time. I have nothing against them, we get along great, but this weighs on my mind too.
We have some money saved though, and out of this tragedy in our area, DH has been doing excellent this past month, business-wise since he is a contractor, so the $$$$ for once is NOT the issue.
I know things could be so much worse (I say that in all my posts!) and contemplating doing work to improve your home is a nice problem to have, but I just really miss my old life and want things to be back to as normal as possible again.
Right now I am stuck in limbo and feel like we are never gonna get there.
What are your thoughts?
Have you ever been in a similar situation?
What did you decide to do?
The time has flown by, but at the same time, it feels like it has been standing still.
I am so, so anxious to just get back into my house, and back into my OWN structure and routine.
We've been staying at my inlaws, and for the past several days, with my parents.
I am SO tired of living out of laundry baskets (the easiest item to just throw a lot of clothes into)and stopping home on occasion if there's something I want that pops into my mind.
I miss my closet and getting up and making coffee in my own kitchen.
My house is currently upside down and this weighs on my mind too, as I like things as neat and clean as possible.
I can also tell that it's stressful on our hosts, being a guest in their home. They've also recently had some other stressors thrown onto them in the form of another unexpected house guest.
DS is also for the most part, pretty bonkers, since he has not had a great deal of structure and routine, and also, he does not understand at all what is going on. He randomly tells people he misses his house, it's broken and he wants to go home.
For more stress, DH is totally motivated to begin the rest of the work to update our home we've talked about way before Sandy. He wants to put in a new kitchen, move our front door, knock down a wall in our living room and put in new windows and siding. His reasoning is that "there's no time like the present."
I go back and forth about this with him. Especially since it's now super cold out and I already feel so stressed out and on edge about not being home. Plus, this is not really a decision I feel like we've had TIME to plan for.........it's just basically been sprung upon us. I don't really like the idea of having to stay with our inlaws for an undetermined period of time. I have nothing against them, we get along great, but this weighs on my mind too.
We have some money saved though, and out of this tragedy in our area, DH has been doing excellent this past month, business-wise since he is a contractor, so the $$$$ for once is NOT the issue.
I know things could be so much worse (I say that in all my posts!) and contemplating doing work to improve your home is a nice problem to have, but I just really miss my old life and want things to be back to as normal as possible again.
Right now I am stuck in limbo and feel like we are never gonna get there.
What are your thoughts?
Have you ever been in a similar situation?
What did you decide to do?
Sunday, November 18, 2012
Saturday, November 17, 2012
I think it really must be true
that it honestly doesn't take much to keep us happy.
Especially after a time of crisis. Life is really put into perspective. For me, this whole Hurricane Sandy thing has really helped me understand that while faced with somewhat different circumstances, I am not unlike many of the clients I have worked with through the years.
Down on their luck, but just needing the basics to keep themselves going. Nothing that is truly "milking the system", or taking much (if anything) out of anyone's pocket.
Just items and services that we all have, but that are often overlooked on a day to day basis.
A simple meal.
Hot coffee.
Steamy shower.
Comfy pants.
Favorite sweat shirt.
Cozy footwear (mine have been my Ugg knock-offs).
Conversation, laughter and smiles.
Ability to see the brightside of a bad situation.
Heat and shelter.
A bed, pillow and warm blanket to rest.
Work and activity to pass the time.
Or just downtime to not do anything much at all.
Snuggles and hugs from family and friends.
People checking in to show they care, even if they can't do anything else.
In terms of money, so far we've received just enough to get us back on our feet. That's all we really wanted and didn't even really expect.
It's sad to think that there are many people out there going through this, or other types of bad situations that don't even have these things. And are seen as taking advantage of the system, and entitled when they do.
And these are only the basics.
Think about the other things we have that are considered necessities.
Computer and smart phone with internet access.
Cable TV.
Car and gas.
Take out.
Electric.
It was reported that there were people in my area getting into fist fights when these items were so scarce just a week ago.
Again, very sad to think about when there are still those who don't have access to the things on the first list, I for one give little thought to on a normal day.
Have you ever been faced with some kind of crisis?
Did you have a basic need that went unmet?
What were the most comforting things for you that helped you through that time?
Was there anything that anyone made you feel uncomfortable for wanting or already having?
Do you think that in order for others to change their mind about those in need, that they must eventually go through their own kind of personal crisis?
Especially after a time of crisis. Life is really put into perspective. For me, this whole Hurricane Sandy thing has really helped me understand that while faced with somewhat different circumstances, I am not unlike many of the clients I have worked with through the years.
Down on their luck, but just needing the basics to keep themselves going. Nothing that is truly "milking the system", or taking much (if anything) out of anyone's pocket.
Just items and services that we all have, but that are often overlooked on a day to day basis.
A simple meal.
Hot coffee.
Steamy shower.
Comfy pants.
Favorite sweat shirt.
Cozy footwear (mine have been my Ugg knock-offs).
Conversation, laughter and smiles.
Ability to see the brightside of a bad situation.
Heat and shelter.
A bed, pillow and warm blanket to rest.
Work and activity to pass the time.
Or just downtime to not do anything much at all.
Snuggles and hugs from family and friends.
People checking in to show they care, even if they can't do anything else.
In terms of money, so far we've received just enough to get us back on our feet. That's all we really wanted and didn't even really expect.
It's sad to think that there are many people out there going through this, or other types of bad situations that don't even have these things. And are seen as taking advantage of the system, and entitled when they do.
And these are only the basics.
Think about the other things we have that are considered necessities.
Computer and smart phone with internet access.
Cable TV.
Car and gas.
Take out.
Electric.
It was reported that there were people in my area getting into fist fights when these items were so scarce just a week ago.
Again, very sad to think about when there are still those who don't have access to the things on the first list, I for one give little thought to on a normal day.
Have you ever been faced with some kind of crisis?
Did you have a basic need that went unmet?
What were the most comforting things for you that helped you through that time?
Was there anything that anyone made you feel uncomfortable for wanting or already having?
Do you think that in order for others to change their mind about those in need, that they must eventually go through their own kind of personal crisis?
Friday, November 16, 2012
Saturday, November 10, 2012
More updates from the storm
We are still displaced at my ILs. While we have a great relationship with them, having to stay with other people is stressful for all involved.
I can tell by my ILs body language and facial expressions that having constant guests is getting to them.
I think we will all be happy when things are "normal" again and we can move back into our house.
We do not have power or gas yet. Since we flooded, our home needs to be inspected before these utilities can be turned on. It's a process to get in touch with the people who need to make this happen. We were initially aiming to be back in our home by Thanksgiving, but at this point, even 12/1 seems to be a stretch.
DH was able to get his hands on a new boiler and hot water heater, and they are currently sitting in boxes in our kitchen.
Met with FEMA twice.
Home owners is not coming to meet with us until the end of November though, since they are so overwhelmed.
So we have not received $$$$ from anyone.
Most of my block is deserted at this point. There's a curfew and cops and National Guard are still out in full force.
Anywhere you go, there are huge dumpsters filled with the remnants of peoples homes.
Or trash just lines the street.
Every day I feel like I hear yet another horrible story about someone I know personally who has it much worse than I do though.
I think it is going to take a very long time----years maybe-----for most of the people who have been affected by the storm to recover.
If they do at all. It's not uncommon to hear people say they want to give up their house and they don't care if they have bankruptcy on their record.
The gas situation is still horrendous.
They have made odd and even # days to fill up though so I am hearing it's getting "slightly" better.
Overall, I feel bad for the people affected by the storm who were already struggling though.
Housing was already a huge resource lacking in our community. I have a huge feeling of dread about what is going to happen with the poor and disabled who have lost their homes.
Now people who have to pay a mortgage on top of rent since they are not able to live in their homes, cannot find places to stay.
And there are going to be even more people needing help because of the storm, since they were already struggling before it even hit.
People who are used to making it on their own, now may find themselves needing assistance from a system that was broken years before Sandy.
I can tell by my ILs body language and facial expressions that having constant guests is getting to them.
I think we will all be happy when things are "normal" again and we can move back into our house.
We do not have power or gas yet. Since we flooded, our home needs to be inspected before these utilities can be turned on. It's a process to get in touch with the people who need to make this happen. We were initially aiming to be back in our home by Thanksgiving, but at this point, even 12/1 seems to be a stretch.
DH was able to get his hands on a new boiler and hot water heater, and they are currently sitting in boxes in our kitchen.
Met with FEMA twice.
Home owners is not coming to meet with us until the end of November though, since they are so overwhelmed.
So we have not received $$$$ from anyone.
Most of my block is deserted at this point. There's a curfew and cops and National Guard are still out in full force.
Anywhere you go, there are huge dumpsters filled with the remnants of peoples homes.
Or trash just lines the street.
Every day I feel like I hear yet another horrible story about someone I know personally who has it much worse than I do though.
I think it is going to take a very long time----years maybe-----for most of the people who have been affected by the storm to recover.
If they do at all. It's not uncommon to hear people say they want to give up their house and they don't care if they have bankruptcy on their record.
The gas situation is still horrendous.
They have made odd and even # days to fill up though so I am hearing it's getting "slightly" better.
Overall, I feel bad for the people affected by the storm who were already struggling though.
Housing was already a huge resource lacking in our community. I have a huge feeling of dread about what is going to happen with the poor and disabled who have lost their homes.
Now people who have to pay a mortgage on top of rent since they are not able to live in their homes, cannot find places to stay.
And there are going to be even more people needing help because of the storm, since they were already struggling before it even hit.
People who are used to making it on their own, now may find themselves needing assistance from a system that was broken years before Sandy.
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
Quick update
If you follow me on Twitter, you probably already know that we sustained flooding and wind damage to our home from Hurricane Sandy. We are not currently living there but staying with our inlaws.
What we went into almost jokingly, turned out to be the scariest day of my life so far. And I say this after being in Manhattan on 9/11. It happened so freakin' fast. Water coming out of nowhere. It truly was like a tsunami that I had only seen on tv.
Right now we are just taking it day by day.
I had my neighbors in my home during the severest part of the storm and I saw first hand people needing to be rescued because panic mode set in. I was easily almost one of them, but thankfully, my neighbors and husband kept me grounded.
While I have not been able to get in touch with anyone live at my insurance company, I was able to speak with FEMA today. My husband was at our home earlier and said FEMA is already coming around to people who applied yesterday.
I went into work today and my co-workers were shocked I came in.
What else could I do though? It is what it is and things are way beyond my control.
I used to live in one of the areas most devastated by the storm and many of our neighbors have lost everything.
It could really be 1000x worse.
I don't know if we will get any assistance financially for our losses but I am remaining hopeful and positive.
I have truly learned that is all that really matters in times like this.
That and having life!
What we went into almost jokingly, turned out to be the scariest day of my life so far. And I say this after being in Manhattan on 9/11. It happened so freakin' fast. Water coming out of nowhere. It truly was like a tsunami that I had only seen on tv.
Right now we are just taking it day by day.
I had my neighbors in my home during the severest part of the storm and I saw first hand people needing to be rescued because panic mode set in. I was easily almost one of them, but thankfully, my neighbors and husband kept me grounded.
While I have not been able to get in touch with anyone live at my insurance company, I was able to speak with FEMA today. My husband was at our home earlier and said FEMA is already coming around to people who applied yesterday.
I went into work today and my co-workers were shocked I came in.
What else could I do though? It is what it is and things are way beyond my control.
I used to live in one of the areas most devastated by the storm and many of our neighbors have lost everything.
It could really be 1000x worse.
I don't know if we will get any assistance financially for our losses but I am remaining hopeful and positive.
I have truly learned that is all that really matters in times like this.
That and having life!
Saturday, October 27, 2012
Friday, October 26, 2012
Thursday, October 25, 2012
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Monday, October 22, 2012
Sunday, October 21, 2012
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Rough week
It's been a pretty rough week.
DS developed strep throat, and even though he's on the mend now, his behavior has been pretty challenging.
It also has gotten to the point where it is causing a lot of tension between myself and DH.
We feel like we can't do anything "normal" people do, because we don't know what kind of mood DS is going to be in and how he is going to respond when we take him out to places.
A trip to Target last night turned into a battle because he spotted a toy he wanted, which in turn, lead to a major meltdown when he was told no. DH took him out of the store and he got out of his arms and tried to run through the parking lot.
DH scooped him up and yelled and a bunch of people looked over like we were all out of our minds.
Last week, we tried to take DS to his favorite pizzeria, and when the waiter unknowingly set a knife down next to DS and we took it away, this triggered his horns to come out.
DH ended up walking him home from the pizzeria and it took him about 30 minutes to stop screaming.
Weekends when I am home with him continue to be tough as well. He has his routine. Which generally involves playing with certain toys and watching certain shows.
If I try to interest him in something else this also more often than not, leads to major meltdown mode. Even encouraging him to go outside or to a place he enjoys has become too much of a transition.
Yesterday on a major highway, he climbed out of his carseat and stood in the backseat.
He also has this thing about not having clothes touching him, so he will frequently strip down and start throwing them towards me while I am driving, which is obviously very unsafe.
At home, it continues to be a battle to keep any kind of clothing item on him at all.
Yesterday, we were in a car lane at the bank, depositing my check, and he started yelling and growling at the top of his lungs towards a little girl in the car next to us. It was in a threatening manner and not the least bit cute.
The mother actually rolled down her window to console me, but I still felt like an idiot.
I really don't know how much more of this we can take.
He continues to act similarly with my ILs and especially towards his cousins.
Surprisingly, the school reports are all glowing, so I really don't know what gives in that department.
I was supposed to meet his behavior person yesterday, but cancelled the session because of his strep.
We shall see what next week brings, and hopefully make it through the weekend.
On another sad note, I've lost the momentum for my yoga challenge this month. I got sick recently, went away for a few days, and between all that's going on with DS, I just haven't been able to, or even wanted to go. I have been to 7 classes so far this month, so I am going to try to make it to 15 instead of the 20 if I can.........
Send us strength and positive vibes over here. We really need it right now.
DS developed strep throat, and even though he's on the mend now, his behavior has been pretty challenging.
It also has gotten to the point where it is causing a lot of tension between myself and DH.
We feel like we can't do anything "normal" people do, because we don't know what kind of mood DS is going to be in and how he is going to respond when we take him out to places.
A trip to Target last night turned into a battle because he spotted a toy he wanted, which in turn, lead to a major meltdown when he was told no. DH took him out of the store and he got out of his arms and tried to run through the parking lot.
DH scooped him up and yelled and a bunch of people looked over like we were all out of our minds.
Last week, we tried to take DS to his favorite pizzeria, and when the waiter unknowingly set a knife down next to DS and we took it away, this triggered his horns to come out.
DH ended up walking him home from the pizzeria and it took him about 30 minutes to stop screaming.
Weekends when I am home with him continue to be tough as well. He has his routine. Which generally involves playing with certain toys and watching certain shows.
If I try to interest him in something else this also more often than not, leads to major meltdown mode. Even encouraging him to go outside or to a place he enjoys has become too much of a transition.
Yesterday on a major highway, he climbed out of his carseat and stood in the backseat.
He also has this thing about not having clothes touching him, so he will frequently strip down and start throwing them towards me while I am driving, which is obviously very unsafe.
At home, it continues to be a battle to keep any kind of clothing item on him at all.
Yesterday, we were in a car lane at the bank, depositing my check, and he started yelling and growling at the top of his lungs towards a little girl in the car next to us. It was in a threatening manner and not the least bit cute.
The mother actually rolled down her window to console me, but I still felt like an idiot.
I really don't know how much more of this we can take.
He continues to act similarly with my ILs and especially towards his cousins.
Surprisingly, the school reports are all glowing, so I really don't know what gives in that department.
I was supposed to meet his behavior person yesterday, but cancelled the session because of his strep.
We shall see what next week brings, and hopefully make it through the weekend.
On another sad note, I've lost the momentum for my yoga challenge this month. I got sick recently, went away for a few days, and between all that's going on with DS, I just haven't been able to, or even wanted to go. I have been to 7 classes so far this month, so I am going to try to make it to 15 instead of the 20 if I can.........
Send us strength and positive vibes over here. We really need it right now.
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
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Friday, October 12, 2012
Drama!!!!
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Does anyone else work in an environment where there's constant drama?
How do you deal? (Or not LOL).
I have probably ranted about this before, but I work in an office of all women.
They fit every negative stereotype about women imaginable.
I know I really shouldn't take their bullshit personally, but it's hard not to, especially on days when you hear crap like "I am the only person around here working hard and YOU can just LEAVE."
Or when they say "It's nothing personal, really, but I wish you would stop doing your job."
I know it's petty too, but my co-workers also did not acknowledge my birthday at all this past week, but acknowledged someone else, and still had the nerve to hit me up for $$$$$ (I didn't give any).
They were aware of my birthday as well. This really made me start to think, because I've been hit up numerous times to contribute for others.
Seriously? I hate this DRAMA!!!!
I've been going to yoga a lot this week, sitting alone in my office not getting involved and going out on occasion to get away from the nonsense, and it has helped. I also call one of my MALE co-workers to vent and that always helps too LOL.
I'm also happy that I am not the one crying every day. I know it's mean, but I am kind of rolling my eyes to myself when certain people get all worked up, cry and are just going on and on with their bitchiness.
Leaving is not an option right now and complaining to my boss is not going to do anything because he has zero patience already for my female counterparts.
I just feel like I need to get this stuff out............I am sure one day I may go off......
Saturday, September 29, 2012
It's that time again
It has been a really long while since I've been really committed to my hot yoga practice. I had a bum summer and so far this month, I've only attended a total of 5 classes.
I am itching to do something positive again for myself, and I completed this challenge once before.
October is my birthday month, the weather gets cooler, it's also darker earlier.
So I have decided what better thing can I do for myself than to at least try another challenge.
Last time around I completed the whole 20 classes and that is my goal once more.
I figure, at the very least, if I only make it to 1/2 that amount of sessions, it's still more than I have finished in a very long time.
Wish me luck my lovelies.
I am itching to do something positive again for myself, and I completed this challenge once before.
October is my birthday month, the weather gets cooler, it's also darker earlier.
So I have decided what better thing can I do for myself than to at least try another challenge.
Last time around I completed the whole 20 classes and that is my goal once more.
I figure, at the very least, if I only make it to 1/2 that amount of sessions, it's still more than I have finished in a very long time.
Wish me luck my lovelies.
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Friday, September 28, 2012
My son
was classified yesterday as a "Preschooler with a disability".
I'm still trying to wrap my head around exactly what that means. Because I certainly don't see it that way.
And I KNOW my family would also back me up, because they are questioning the terminology as well.
I feel in the grand scheme of things, he is pretty much like every other kid, except with a whole bunch more energy who has trouble with change.
I know those are things many of US struggle with, so I don't think he's really all that different.
I am hopeful that whatever comes from this, and the services he has qualified for, will make his life a 1000% better. And of course, ours too.
Because I would be lying if I said there are not days that he does not drive me totally batty and insane. But isn't that also what EVERY parent goes through?
I also know that I can handle it because we ARE handling it. We are used to it already. He's all we know.
We too could always be so much worse off. I think of many of the people I work with in my own professional life who HAVE it so much worse off............that's why I have such a hard time understanding what this term "disabled" stands for.
I will leave you all with this very touching poem.
I'm still trying to wrap my head around exactly what that means. Because I certainly don't see it that way.
And I KNOW my family would also back me up, because they are questioning the terminology as well.
I feel in the grand scheme of things, he is pretty much like every other kid, except with a whole bunch more energy who has trouble with change.
I know those are things many of US struggle with, so I don't think he's really all that different.
I am hopeful that whatever comes from this, and the services he has qualified for, will make his life a 1000% better. And of course, ours too.
Because I would be lying if I said there are not days that he does not drive me totally batty and insane. But isn't that also what EVERY parent goes through?
I also know that I can handle it because we ARE handling it. We are used to it already. He's all we know.
We too could always be so much worse off. I think of many of the people I work with in my own professional life who HAVE it so much worse off............that's why I have such a hard time understanding what this term "disabled" stands for.
I will leave you all with this very touching poem.
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Monday, September 17, 2012
Friday, September 14, 2012
Busy week!
We started nursery school this week. From what I was told, DS did well both days.
However, my ILs noticed that both days in the afternoon, when he returned to their care, he had issues. He was having inconsolable meltdowns, and even moreso, he is fighting again about wearing clothes.
I don't know if it has to do with holding in anxiety at school to "be good", a change in routine, or something else.........
In addition, we also started the district based evaluations this week.
We met with the child psych today. She was very honest that they can't really diagnosis a child with anything until around 7 or 8 because each day they are seen at this age, they can present differently.
She did however say that from the start, she noticed he has a lot of problems focusing and sitting still. The speech therapist who saw him the other day said the same thing. In both sessions, he could not remain seated, was crawling and rolling all over the floor, going from toy to toy, etc.
While she has to score the evaluation still, she feels he does have some sensory issues which are contributing to this.
Apparently the good thing is a lot of regular teachers are aware of this stuff and know how to handle it so it does not have to become a disruption and escalate into bad behavior in class.
The child psych said it could go either way at the meeting in a couple weeks when they decide if he is eligible for services. Best case scenario, they will send a special ed teacher to work with him for a couple hours each week in his nursery school class. Worst, they look to see if he "grows out of this" and will ask him to come back in 6 months for another eval.
He also met with the OT today who said he has a few "borderline" issues with his fine motor skills, but honestly, I think that's BS because 1.) he's not in school enough yet really and has not used scissors and pencils that much and as DH pointed out 2.) he uses a hammer and other tools at this age. (DH is in construction so he follows him all around, wanting to do what he does).
DS also is advanced in terms of being able to do sports kinds of activities, and both the speech therapist and psychologist said his hand/eye coordination is excellent.
It was also pointed out that he appears very intelligent and does do things to kind of "manipulate" people. My family has ALWAYS said this about him. Throughout both sessions this week, when the person would ask him something, he would answer with the wrong thing, and then smile or laugh so they knew he was just being silly about it. It was also said that cognitively, there's absolutely nothing wrong with him.
On Tuesday, they are sending a special educator to the nursery school for about 45 minutes to observe him.
Both the psychologist and the speech therapist are going to call me next week to discuss their final conclusions before we attend the CPSE meeting at the school, at the end of the month.
So that's the latest.
It has been a very busy week, between all this and the craziness of work and I am so looking forward to the weekend to just relax, with no major plans.
However, my ILs noticed that both days in the afternoon, when he returned to their care, he had issues. He was having inconsolable meltdowns, and even moreso, he is fighting again about wearing clothes.
I don't know if it has to do with holding in anxiety at school to "be good", a change in routine, or something else.........
In addition, we also started the district based evaluations this week.
We met with the child psych today. She was very honest that they can't really diagnosis a child with anything until around 7 or 8 because each day they are seen at this age, they can present differently.
She did however say that from the start, she noticed he has a lot of problems focusing and sitting still. The speech therapist who saw him the other day said the same thing. In both sessions, he could not remain seated, was crawling and rolling all over the floor, going from toy to toy, etc.
While she has to score the evaluation still, she feels he does have some sensory issues which are contributing to this.
Apparently the good thing is a lot of regular teachers are aware of this stuff and know how to handle it so it does not have to become a disruption and escalate into bad behavior in class.
The child psych said it could go either way at the meeting in a couple weeks when they decide if he is eligible for services. Best case scenario, they will send a special ed teacher to work with him for a couple hours each week in his nursery school class. Worst, they look to see if he "grows out of this" and will ask him to come back in 6 months for another eval.
He also met with the OT today who said he has a few "borderline" issues with his fine motor skills, but honestly, I think that's BS because 1.) he's not in school enough yet really and has not used scissors and pencils that much and as DH pointed out 2.) he uses a hammer and other tools at this age. (DH is in construction so he follows him all around, wanting to do what he does).
DS also is advanced in terms of being able to do sports kinds of activities, and both the speech therapist and psychologist said his hand/eye coordination is excellent.
It was also pointed out that he appears very intelligent and does do things to kind of "manipulate" people. My family has ALWAYS said this about him. Throughout both sessions this week, when the person would ask him something, he would answer with the wrong thing, and then smile or laugh so they knew he was just being silly about it. It was also said that cognitively, there's absolutely nothing wrong with him.
On Tuesday, they are sending a special educator to the nursery school for about 45 minutes to observe him.
Both the psychologist and the speech therapist are going to call me next week to discuss their final conclusions before we attend the CPSE meeting at the school, at the end of the month.
So that's the latest.
It has been a very busy week, between all this and the craziness of work and I am so looking forward to the weekend to just relax, with no major plans.
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Friday, August 31, 2012
Think this should be for all humans. Not just girls.
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but females can certainly be vicious.
Sunday, August 26, 2012
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
Sometimes other social workers piss me off
Have you ever vented about things that piss you off about many of the systems that we work in?
Especially issues that some (Note: Not All) clients have done that get under your skin?
Primarily when it comes to money, entitlement and getting over?
Yeah, as social workers I know we're trained to "get it".
I, for one understand the dynamics behind it, and can't honestly say I wouldn't act the same way if I was suddenly in many a client's shoes.
I also know it's not very social work-ey of me to think ill of some of the people I have come across.
As social workers, I am aware that we should constantly stand up for people as a whole (even if gasp, there are a few bad apples) and not mention things that may or may not be portrayed as true in the media.
HOWEVER.............
Just because we have a certain title, doesn't mean we need to sit back and bury our heads in the sand and be la de da about certain issues.
We're you ever outright attacked by other social workers for voicing your opinions about negatives you witness in the field?
Because honestly, nothing disgusts me more than when social work colleagues take on a holier than thou stance that we, as humans, tax payers, people with feelings....persons that are NOT JUST OUR DAMN TITLE are not entitled to feel the way we do about others we come across through our work.
I also think it's pretty awful when the ASSumption is made too that we treat the people we come across badly or unprofessionally because of our underlying feelings.
Or the best----when a blanket statement is made to the tune of "maybe you should just leave your job if you feel that way". (Hmmmmm, like it's always so easy to just leave. Or just because I come across a few clients I don't like on occasion HERE what makes you think that won't happen THERE. Idiot).
I think a lot of us have the ability to act professionally.
And usually do.
One of the best professors I ever had in graduate school use to always talk about how it was total bull shit that social work was not a judgmental profession.
Because as social workers, that's basically all we do all damn day.
We judge our clients. We judge our bosses. We judge the people we work with. We judge OURSELVES.
But to try to throw your colleagues under the bus, ESPECIALLY when you haven't walked in their shoes..........well, that's the worst kind of judgment to me.
Our field is already isolating and stressful.
This kind of attitude just makes it even more of both.
Every social worker has the right to feel however the heck they want to feel.
And every single one of us have the right to be angry at times. How does this make us bad for the profession? If we were negative constantly every second of the day, maybe, however, often anger is what leads to passion to make things happen and change for the BETTER.
And on that note, when was the last time YOU met a perfect social worker? I know I'm not!!! Far from it in fact.......
I'm ever changing and ever learning.
And thank goodness for that!!!
Especially issues that some (Note: Not All) clients have done that get under your skin?
Primarily when it comes to money, entitlement and getting over?
Yeah, as social workers I know we're trained to "get it".
I, for one understand the dynamics behind it, and can't honestly say I wouldn't act the same way if I was suddenly in many a client's shoes.
I also know it's not very social work-ey of me to think ill of some of the people I have come across.
As social workers, I am aware that we should constantly stand up for people as a whole (even if gasp, there are a few bad apples) and not mention things that may or may not be portrayed as true in the media.
HOWEVER.............
Just because we have a certain title, doesn't mean we need to sit back and bury our heads in the sand and be la de da about certain issues.
We're you ever outright attacked by other social workers for voicing your opinions about negatives you witness in the field?
Because honestly, nothing disgusts me more than when social work colleagues take on a holier than thou stance that we, as humans, tax payers, people with feelings....persons that are NOT JUST OUR DAMN TITLE are not entitled to feel the way we do about others we come across through our work.
I also think it's pretty awful when the ASSumption is made too that we treat the people we come across badly or unprofessionally because of our underlying feelings.
Or the best----when a blanket statement is made to the tune of "maybe you should just leave your job if you feel that way". (Hmmmmm, like it's always so easy to just leave. Or just because I come across a few clients I don't like on occasion HERE what makes you think that won't happen THERE. Idiot).
I think a lot of us have the ability to act professionally.
And usually do.
One of the best professors I ever had in graduate school use to always talk about how it was total bull shit that social work was not a judgmental profession.
Because as social workers, that's basically all we do all damn day.
We judge our clients. We judge our bosses. We judge the people we work with. We judge OURSELVES.
But to try to throw your colleagues under the bus, ESPECIALLY when you haven't walked in their shoes..........well, that's the worst kind of judgment to me.
Our field is already isolating and stressful.
This kind of attitude just makes it even more of both.
Every social worker has the right to feel however the heck they want to feel.
And every single one of us have the right to be angry at times. How does this make us bad for the profession? If we were negative constantly every second of the day, maybe, however, often anger is what leads to passion to make things happen and change for the BETTER.
And on that note, when was the last time YOU met a perfect social worker? I know I'm not!!! Far from it in fact.......
I'm ever changing and ever learning.
And thank goodness for that!!!
Friday, August 17, 2012
More on my son
So he was away for over a week with my parents, and came home late in the day on Wednesday.
So happy to have him back home!!!
I dropped off the paperwork to begin his evaluation through the school district on Wednesday as well.
It was like dealing with the Red Hat Society.....the school secretary who was probably there since the time I started elementary school, was so freakin' annoying, making me wait well past the time she asked me to be there so she could "have her coffee", and then questioning my reasons for wanting to have an evaluation "since I already had him seen by a psychologist".
But, the AGENCY who will be doing the evals called me right away, and the woman I spoke with was extremely professional and not a busy-body wannabe psychologist.
I have his speech and psychological scheduled, and we also have the date set for when they discuss the next steps. (If there will be any........part of me still thinks this is a bunch of malarkey, him being 3, a boy and his overall personality).
He is also doing much, much better with the potty so I can't complain about that.
School is also right around the corner. He starts officially on 9/11.
So happy to have him back home!!!
I dropped off the paperwork to begin his evaluation through the school district on Wednesday as well.
It was like dealing with the Red Hat Society.....the school secretary who was probably there since the time I started elementary school, was so freakin' annoying, making me wait well past the time she asked me to be there so she could "have her coffee", and then questioning my reasons for wanting to have an evaluation "since I already had him seen by a psychologist".
But, the AGENCY who will be doing the evals called me right away, and the woman I spoke with was extremely professional and not a busy-body wannabe psychologist.
I have his speech and psychological scheduled, and we also have the date set for when they discuss the next steps. (If there will be any........part of me still thinks this is a bunch of malarkey, him being 3, a boy and his overall personality).
He is also doing much, much better with the potty so I can't complain about that.
School is also right around the corner. He starts officially on 9/11.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Sunday, August 12, 2012
Another new fave
Especially because of Fab 5. Go Team USA!!!! It's been fun and so inspiring watching all of the athletes these past few weeks.
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Update: My son
Well, we met with the psychologist last night after a 5-session evaluation, and in a nutshell, he is recommending we pursue an evaluation through the school district.
While he thinks it is too early/dangerous to label him with ADHD he does strongly feel that he has a very difficult time focusing and maintaining his attention for any significant period of time, which could become problematic in a classroom setting. He was very clear that he believes this is a personality trait more than anything, and he stated it could also certainly be genetic. (My husband and his father are very much wired this way). He described him as the type of child who is wound up like a clock that cannot stop. He said because he has no control over this, this is when the behaviors come out.
He said that we should definitely make the teacher aware, so she could channel some of this energy in positive ways (i.e. giving him tasks to do outside of the circle of other kids, etc.)
He also said that while some may disagree, it's not necessarily a bad thing if we don't push the potty training. He stated that we should let the school know this as well and if he has an accident, in his opinion, it's still very normal for 3-4.5 year olds to have accidents. In my son's case, he said because of his inability to sit still/focus it is even more difficult for him to master this task.
He offered us ideas as well to motivate him more around potty training (i.e. peeing on a cheerio) and felt that he is also going to need to be rewarded in small ways for being able to handle himself during the school sessions.
He said it was up to us if we want to wait to submit the request for the evaluation until after school starts, but in his opinion, we should submit it now rather than wait till he begins classes.
I also mentioned my concern of him being in a diverse school district in elementary school, and how this could play out, especially being around other children that may have behavioral issues from stuff at home, not speak English as their first language, etc.(I also am concerned about him not getting the attention he needs as well from a strong teacher because of stuff with other kids). He said for this reason as well he should get services if they feel he qualifies.
I think these were the major points, and he said he does not need to see us/my son again unless something big comes up and we feel the need to set something up.
He recommended an agency which I actually have heard of as one of the best around to work with kids like my son, as well.
While he thinks it is too early/dangerous to label him with ADHD he does strongly feel that he has a very difficult time focusing and maintaining his attention for any significant period of time, which could become problematic in a classroom setting. He was very clear that he believes this is a personality trait more than anything, and he stated it could also certainly be genetic. (My husband and his father are very much wired this way). He described him as the type of child who is wound up like a clock that cannot stop. He said because he has no control over this, this is when the behaviors come out.
He said that we should definitely make the teacher aware, so she could channel some of this energy in positive ways (i.e. giving him tasks to do outside of the circle of other kids, etc.)
He also said that while some may disagree, it's not necessarily a bad thing if we don't push the potty training. He stated that we should let the school know this as well and if he has an accident, in his opinion, it's still very normal for 3-4.5 year olds to have accidents. In my son's case, he said because of his inability to sit still/focus it is even more difficult for him to master this task.
He offered us ideas as well to motivate him more around potty training (i.e. peeing on a cheerio) and felt that he is also going to need to be rewarded in small ways for being able to handle himself during the school sessions.
He said it was up to us if we want to wait to submit the request for the evaluation until after school starts, but in his opinion, we should submit it now rather than wait till he begins classes.
I also mentioned my concern of him being in a diverse school district in elementary school, and how this could play out, especially being around other children that may have behavioral issues from stuff at home, not speak English as their first language, etc.(I also am concerned about him not getting the attention he needs as well from a strong teacher because of stuff with other kids). He said for this reason as well he should get services if they feel he qualifies.
I think these were the major points, and he said he does not need to see us/my son again unless something big comes up and we feel the need to set something up.
He recommended an agency which I actually have heard of as one of the best around to work with kids like my son, as well.
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Monday, August 6, 2012
Sunday, August 5, 2012
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Yes. Yes we all are.
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Anyone who works in this field and fights the good fight for people in need, are awesome in my book.
Happy mid-week point, lovelies.
Sunday, July 22, 2012
Friday, July 20, 2012
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Monday, July 16, 2012
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Sunday, July 8, 2012
So I am doing okay with my goals over the past week.
I haven't eaten breakfast at all at my fave morning hang-out spot (just got coffee). In addition to that, I am doing better at phasing out carbs and take-out completely (I think we did one night with Subway last week).
My yoga practiced has still really sucked...........just made it to one class. Laziness and hot weather is still taking over any and all motivation to go. I am hoping to get back to class this afternoon.
I finally stopped playing phone tag with the child psychologist, and have an appointment scheduled for this coming Wednesday evening with DH and myself. The guy seemed really cool on the phone, and said he just wants to meet without my son first to talk about what's going on.
I have the application for school-based services filled out and am just waiting for the pediatrician to send back his justification so I can move forward.
Although, our overall plan since we feel at this point it's behavioral stuff with DS that can be changed, is that if we meet with the psychologist, perhaps we won't even have to follow through with the district.
At my job, I did feel like I got a lot of stuff done this past week, even though I was only there 3 days. I am looking forward to having no intakes scheduled however in my upcoming week so I can get at least 2 plans done. I want to focus on people I can bring onto the program really quickly, because that bonus $$$$ is calling my name LOL.
Speaking of money......what can I say? While I did save quite a lot over the past couple of weeks, all of my major bills are due in the beginning of the month, so most of that came right out of savings again.
I am planning to put my next couple of paychecks right back into savings though. *Fingers crossed*.
Oh, one more thing. Someone from a local message board I frequent, who is also a social worker emailed me that the hospital system I would ultimately like to get into is hiring for Per Diem social workers (i.e. to work PT during the evenings, weekends and holidays). She gave me the contact person, because it's an "in" to getting a F/T job there. I appreciate this A LOT and am absolutely considering applying, however, I don't know if I realistically have the time nor do I want to make the commitment to doing P/T stuff. So as an alternative, I was thinking of following up with the contact person instead, and asking for an informational interview, and to see if she will review my resume to make suggestions of what I should have on there, and maybe keeping it on file for if something F/T opens up.
What do you think of this social workers?
Related to that, I also have been considering having a few people look over my resume and maybe even having it professionally re-done.
I apologize if my posts have not been too exciting on here lately.
Life is pretty routine and anything social work related I think of writing about, tends to center around my same old rants, that you've all heard a gazillion times.
How has your week been? Anything new to share? Any advice for me with my goals?
Saturday, June 30, 2012
July goals
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So I feel like June was a crap month for me accomplishing things I wanted to get done.
I also ate like total crap and only made it to THREE Bikram classes for the entire month, and no, being away for a whole week should not have been an excuse to not go throughout the rest of the month.
I looked at a picture of myself from earlier this week and I can tell I've put on weight and I don't feel good about it all.
I also felt like I didn't get as much done as I should have in terms of some of my paperwork for my job.
In the past, when I've made what I feel are achievable goals, and have written them down publicly to hold myself accountable, I think that I've done pretty well in following through on them.
So I am going to try the same for this month. Here are some of the things I would like to accomplish in July:
1.) Phase out Panera breakfast during the week. Notice I didn't say coffee ;). I add this to my list because I totally feel that having a bagel, or something with bacon and cheese 4 mornings a week is literally going straight to my hips. While I will continue to go there in the morning for coffeetime before the craziness of work begins, I will pack a healthy breakfast to eat at my desk, instead. On the weekends, I rarely eat breakfast, or will have something small and light, so I really just need to break my Panera food habit and all should be good.
2.) Get back to my mat at least 3 days a week. I know that once I get back into a routine again, I will be fine. I really broke my stride this month and it was too easy to get into a pattern of not going as a result. 3 classes is pretty easy for me to make. One can be on the weekend, and then I just have to commit to 2 weeknights.
3.)Receive at least 2 bonuses this month. I've been pretty steady with completing this goal and did it in June. Money talks for this social worker ;).
4.) Save even just $50.00 more a week. I noticed with my vacation spending this month, that bonus money pretty much went out the window on crap like food and souvenirs. I want to try to really focus on getting our joint savings account back up to where it needs to be, even with something as small as $50.00 a week.
5.) Follow through on some things for my son. I've talked a lot on Twitter as of late about what's going on with him. This one should really be #1 on my list of things I MUST accomplish this month. In a nutshell, he's 3 and has been displaying a lot of behavioral concerns over the past several months. I would like to get him evaluated both through my insurance, as well as through our school district. If all is well through the psychologist I pay for, I figure I won't need to pursue options through the school, which from what I hear, can take a lot longer.
So there ya have it friends. My goals for the month of July.
Wish me luck!!!
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Wednesday Wednesday
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I just realized the last time I wrote a post was a week ago.
There's hasn't really been anything new and exciting for me to talk about however.
My vacation is long over. (Although I have off next week for The 4th!)
Work is pretty routine these days.
Not much drama there as of late (fortunately!).
Our department is going to be moving into our own space soon which is pretty exciting.
And I'm enjoying my morning coffee in peace right now (my favorite time of day).
I think sometimes routine can be good though. At least for me. I like structure. I like predictability. I know even little changes can make me a bit nutty.
What about you?
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