Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Sometimes other social workers piss me off

Have you ever vented about things that piss you off about many of the systems that we work in?

Especially issues that some (Note: Not All) clients have done that get under your skin?

Primarily when it comes to money, entitlement and getting over?

Yeah, as social workers I know we're trained to "get it".

I, for one understand the dynamics behind it, and can't honestly say I wouldn't act the same way if I was suddenly in many a client's shoes.

I also know it's not very social work-ey of me to think ill of some of the people I have come across.

As social workers, I am aware that we should constantly stand up for people as a whole (even if gasp, there are a few bad apples) and not mention things that may or may not be portrayed as true in the media.


Just because we have a certain title, doesn't mean we need to sit back and bury our heads in the sand and be la de da about certain issues.

We're you ever outright attacked by other social workers for voicing your opinions about negatives you witness in the field?

Because honestly, nothing disgusts me more than when social work colleagues take on a holier than thou stance that we, as humans, tax payers, people with feelings....persons that are NOT JUST OUR DAMN TITLE are not entitled to feel the way we do about others we come across through our work.

I also think it's pretty awful when the ASSumption is made too that we treat the people we come across badly or unprofessionally because of our underlying feelings.

Or the best----when a blanket statement is made to the tune of "maybe you should just leave your job if you feel that way". (Hmmmmm, like it's always so easy to just leave. Or just because I come across a few clients I don't like on occasion HERE what makes you think that won't happen THERE. Idiot).

I think a lot of us have the ability to act professionally.

And usually do.

One of the best professors I ever had in graduate school use to always talk about how it was total bull shit that social work was not a judgmental profession.

Because as social workers, that's basically all we do all damn day.

We judge our clients. We judge our bosses. We judge the people we work with. We judge OURSELVES.

But to try to throw your colleagues under the bus, ESPECIALLY when you haven't walked in their shoes..........well, that's the worst kind of judgment to me.

Our field is already isolating and stressful.

This kind of attitude just makes it even more of both.

Every social worker has the right to feel however the heck they want to feel.

And every single one of us have the right to be angry at times. How does this make us bad for the profession? If we were negative constantly every second of the day, maybe, however, often anger is what leads to passion to make things happen and change for the BETTER.

And on that note, when was the last time YOU met a perfect social worker? I know I'm not!!! Far from it in fact.......

I'm ever changing and ever learning.

And thank goodness for that!!!

Friday, August 17, 2012

More on my son

So he was away for over a week with my parents, and came home late in the day on Wednesday.

So happy to have him back home!!!

I dropped off the paperwork to begin his evaluation through the school district on Wednesday as well.

It was like dealing with the Red Hat Society.....the school secretary who was probably there since the time I started elementary school, was so freakin' annoying, making me wait well past the time she asked me to be there so she could "have her coffee", and then questioning my reasons for wanting to have an evaluation "since I already had him seen by a psychologist".

But, the AGENCY who will be doing the evals called me right away, and the woman I spoke with was extremely professional and not a busy-body wannabe psychologist.

I have his speech and psychological scheduled, and we also have the date set for when they discuss the next steps. (If there will be any........part of me still thinks this is a bunch of malarkey, him being 3, a boy and his overall personality).

He is also doing much, much better with the potty so I can't complain about that.

School is also right around the corner. He starts officially on 9/11.

Ha ha do you work here?

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Another new fave

Especially because of Fab 5.  Go Team USA!!!! It's been fun and so inspiring watching all of the athletes these past few weeks. 

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Update: My son

Well, we met with the psychologist last night after a 5-session evaluation, and in a nutshell, he is recommending we pursue an evaluation through the school district.

While he thinks it is too early/dangerous to label him with ADHD he does strongly feel that he has a very difficult time focusing and maintaining his attention for any significant period of time, which could become problematic in a classroom setting. He was very clear that he believes this is a personality trait more than anything, and he stated it could also certainly be genetic. (My husband and his father are very much wired this way). He described him as the type of child who is wound up like a clock that cannot stop. He said because he has no control over this, this is when the behaviors come out.

He said that we should definitely make the teacher aware, so she could channel some of this energy in positive ways (i.e. giving him tasks to do outside of the circle of other kids, etc.)

He also said that while some may disagree, it's not necessarily a bad thing if we don't push the potty training. He stated that we should let the school know this as well and if he has an accident, in his opinion, it's still very normal for 3-4.5 year olds to have accidents. In my son's case, he said because of his inability to sit still/focus it is even more difficult for him to master this task.

He offered us ideas as well to motivate him more around potty training (i.e. peeing on a cheerio) and felt that he is also going to need to be rewarded in small ways for being able to handle himself during the school sessions.

He said it was up to us if we want to wait to submit the request for the evaluation until after school starts, but in his opinion, we should submit it now rather than wait till he begins classes.

I also mentioned my concern of him being in a diverse school district in elementary school, and how this could play out, especially being around other children that may have behavioral issues from stuff at home, not speak English as their first language, etc.(I also am concerned about him not getting the attention he needs as well from a strong teacher because of stuff with other kids). He said for this reason as well he should get services if they feel he qualifies.

I think these were the major points, and he said he does not need to see us/my son again unless something big comes up and we feel the need to set something up.

He recommended an agency which I actually have heard of as one of the best around to work with kids like my son, as well.