Saturday, April 30, 2011

So true.

The more you sweat in practice, the less you bleed in battle. -Unknown

Can't wait to return for some more hot yoga in the AM.

Haven't been in a few days. April was not a good month for me yoga-wise. I only made it to 10 classes with the holiday weekend and my parents visiting for a week in the beginning of the month.

I hope to change that number though come May.

This is such a great hot yoga quote that can be applied to so many situations in life.

Social workers are like "clients" too

I have a wild-child 2-year-old who will randomly hit others in public and embarrass the shit out of me. At times I feel I cannot handle him.

I have drama in my family at times. And a lot of us probably do have "issues".

My husband can really annoy the crap out of me, and yes, we do fight. Sometimes a lot. We'd probably give a good therapist a run for their money.

Speaking of money, I worry about it. And many times, I haven't had it for things I needed or wanted.

I avoid doing things I need to do, and don't always follow the advice I would give to some of my own clients.

I curse and say things that are not appropriate. Often daily.

I have and will continue to do dumb things.

I can be stubborn, challenging and just really aggravating at times.

On many occasions, I think I'd be some social worker's worst client.

Friday, April 29, 2011

Made it through

another week!

Lots of challenges have happened in Socialworkland, but with most, they ended up working out.

I also have to say I really enjoy my new position and I especially love my new office environment.

Right now I am watching the royal wedding festivities and loving the fact that I don't have to be in the office or with clients today :).

What do you all have planned for this weekend?

Saturday, April 23, 2011

This weekend I'm relaxing

because this week is going to be wild and crazy in Social Worker land!

Right now I am in Upstate, NY at my parent's house with DS. DH had to work most of this weekend, but will be joining us at my Aunt's tomorrow for Easter dinner.

So far this weekend I've enjoyed:

Not having to drive the almost 3 hour drive North myself with DS (parents picked us up).
Eating yummy food (homemade burgers, baked sweet potato fries and salad for dinner last night).
Hot coffee.
Breakfast out this morning (I had hash. I never eat hash but it was crispy and delicious).
Sitting in on a rainy, quiet day relaxing while DS hunts for Easter eggs inside.
Walking around the Super Wal-mart to people watch. (There are definitely some interesting characters to see at the Wal-mart in this neck of the woods).
Later tonight I am going to watch my sister sing and play her guitar at a local coffee house.
Tomorrow I am looking forward to making fresh guacamole to bring to my Aunt's house. (This is one of my favorite appetizers ever).

What are you all doing this weekend? Hope you are getting at least some rest and relaxation in.

Friday, April 22, 2011

When it comes to certain clients

do you feel as a social worker you have a crystal ball and can totally predict some of the things that they are going to do next?

And can't you ALWAYS see that whatever is going to go wrong, always happens on a Friday, and usually right before a holiday weekend like today ;).

1. Fridays are my work from home and rest and relaxation day .

2. Positive people, sunshine, good deals, and stable clients make me terribly happy.

3. Something that inspires me is when people jump in and drop everything to help someone in need.

4. If I had the day off today I would.....well, technically I am working from home today, and I will be heading Upstate later to spend the weekend with family.

5. If I had to put a label on my home decor style, I would say very simple and a huge work in progress. We haven't done much outside of our bedroom and DS room at this point. One day though, one day! (Money fall from the sky down on me LOL).

6. Concerning politics I would say I'm pretty liberal, but some days certain people I work with make me feel totally republican LOL .

7. I'd like to go to a nice, warm beach somewhere even if only for a day.

Saturday, April 16, 2011

Just paid off some debt!

And now, we really don't have a heck of a lot left in our joint's STILL one of the best feelings in the world knowing a debt is no more!

Now time to focus on building our savings back up!!!!!!

Please share your tips on saving!!!! Especially if you are on a modest social work salary like mine.

I hope you are having a nice relaxing weekend so far.

Friday, April 15, 2011

It's Friday, you know what that means.........

1. My favorite daily responsibility is going to work during the week. I really enjoy being a social worker, and as much as I love my son, I don't think I could ever be a stay-at-home mom. I also love managing our household the rest of the time and of course, spending time with my toddler.

2. My least favorite daily responsibility is probably cleaning. I keep our house neat and tidy, and straighten up on a daily basis, but I don't go overboard.

3. My favorite cuisine to eat when going out depends on my mood. We rarely go out to eat (too hard with a toddler and too expensive plus I love to cook!) but some of my faves are sushi, Indian and Italian.

4. My favorite cuisine to prepare at home is probably my semi-homemade pizza. I don't make my own dough, I buy it, but both DH and DS love this weekly treat.

5. Andy Warhol said that everyone is famous for 15 minutes. My claim to fame is the fact that I've been featured as one of the top social work bloggers. When DH makes fun of me for blogging, I always mention this and it shuts him up!

6. If I could have 3 wishes I would wish to come into money to pay off our mortgage and my student loans, for certain Negative Nellies in my life to have a huge new positive attitude adjustment, and for sunshine and warm weather daily.

7. My biggest pet peeve is Negative Nellies.


Starting my new position at work

I am starting my new position at work on Monday and I am so excited.

I am going to have a tiny caseload and mostly be focusing on intakes with new clients.

My office will now be only a 5 minute drive from home.

The office is also small, with a bunch of really nice ladies (no more business-men bosses for this social worker to clash with daily), and it's also situated on a beautiful lake in a cute little town that I can't wait to spend time in during my lunch breaks.

I am looking forward to the positive change!!!!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Long Island Serial Killer

I've been following this news story like a hawk. It's so depressing, however, I am glad it's getting so much press because normally, throw-away victims like this would not get more than a quick blurb one time on the news, if that.

Anyways, tonight, while I was struggling with some of my poses in my hot yoga class, thoughts of these random persons out there and alone with someone mad in their very last moments, passed into my mind.

I began to push myself a little harder at that point, and dedicated the rest of my practice to them, with hopes they will soon be identified, and that law enforcement will be able to find and bring their killer to justice.

Monday, April 11, 2011

11 things I miss about social work school

1.) Having a built-in support network of peers who truly "get it".

2.) Just being around so many people who are passionate about social work in general.

3.) Lots of amazing professors.

4.) Being around so many people who are fresh and new to the field, who are not feeling burnt-out and jaded.

5.) Internships!!!!!

6.) Being expected to write constantly. (And not just progress notes).

7.) Being expected to read constantly.

8.) Getting to know myself and really learn about others and challenge my feelings and beliefs.

9.) Classes that are like therapy sessions.

10.) Feelings of excitement about the unexpected once I graduate.

11.) No student loan payments yet!!

What do you miss about being a graduate student? I am sure there are many I have forgotten about.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Hot yoga---to answer your questions

I did a post about my favorite pastime quite awhile ago, but figured I would talk about it again for those of you newly following my blog, or following me on Twitter.

So, HOT yoga. Is it hot? Is it humid? Absolutely. In a "normal" class the average temperature throughout the class is 105 with 40-50% humidity. You WILL sweat. You may feel light-headed and dizzy at some point because of the heat and other factors. A lot of how you feel depends on what your body is going through on that particular day. Anything from stress to what you ate, and especially, especially, ESPECIALLY how hydrated you are play huge factors in the type of class you will have.

It can and will feel hotter at times. I know when I went to class earlier this week, the thermostat was broken and at one point, the teacher said it was close to 120 degrees and she had to open up the door to the room and put the fans on to cool it off a bit. Many of us "regulars" had to sit out for a lot of the poses.

This is extremely common. For everyone. You should never feel bad if you have to sit out a pose or if you can't get certain poses. Many of them take years and years and years to perfect.

It is the same 26 postures for every class, so once you learn them, it makes coming back easier and easier.

The most important thing to do is to focus on your breathe.

It's good to go to class if you are feeling sick or have a cold.

In fact, it's good to go to class as much as possible if you have the time. Hot yoga enthusiasts say you must go on average 3-5x a week to notice a difference in your body.

Hot yoga will help you lose weight, improve your flexibility, tone your figure and improve your mental attitude and the way you think about life.

It can sound pricey, however, most studios offer unlimited class specials so it ends up being a lot cheaper then one might think, the more often you go. (I pay $145 a month for unlimted hot yoga----I spend more than that on crap at Target each month I have no need for).

Hot yoga studios offer classes at all times of the day, night and weekends. I often attend the 8PM class Mon-Thurs at the studio by me.

The class is 90 minutes all about you.

The most intimadating part for me was learning to breathe, focus only and myself, and realize that none of the other students in the class are looking at me.

(Or if they are it's to see how to do a pose because they are new and feeling intimadated).

You don't have to be a yoga rockstar or have a dancer's body to participate. In every class, there are people of all ages, shapes, sizes, sexes, backgrounds and ethnicities that come. You can have injuries and a history of hating heat and hot weather. Some teachers even say if you have been practicing awhile, it's okay to do hot yoga while pregnant. (I am sure this would not go over with a lot of doctors though).

Many classes your biggest goal will just to be to learn to breathe through whatever comes up, and ultimately, just stay in the room.

All you need for your class is a yoga mat, a towel and a small wash cloth to wipe your sweat. Also bring a bottle of water.

Dress in light clothing. Nothing loose or heavy like baggy shirts or sweat pants. I usually wear leggings and a yoga or tight-fitting tank top. I don't like shorts personally because it's harder for me to get a grip on my leg in a lot of the balancing postures, but a lot of students wear shorts and sports bras. Whatever your preference!

You should never eat 2-3 hours before class because you could end up feeling (or in some cases I have been told getting) sick. (Sometimes if I am really hungry I will eat a piece of fruit of have a tiny handful of crackers an hour or so beforehand).

Many studios offer beginner specials for one to check it out and they are super cheap (think $20.00 for 10 days of unlimited hot yoga).

Often the hardest part about hot yoga is just getting yourself there. I know this is the major reason I don't go when I can. It's easy to make the excuses, however, I promise you though---if you give it a chance, it is SO worth it. I have never regretted going to class, even if it has been challenging. And I've always felt 100% better if i brought myself to class when I did not initially feel like going.

If there's something I have not answered, please feel free to ask. I LOVE talking about hot yoga in case you can't tell :).

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Not a lover of birds, however

There's something about the owl that I adore.

The highlight of today was that I got the two tiny ones in the dollar bin at Target earlier. That's right..........$1.00 each.

Friday, April 8, 2011

OK, I found it!!!

And it's perfectly fitting for a Friday. .
(Warning: Do not read if you offend easily).

From the "Best of Craigslist"...............

A social worker finally snaps


Date: 2005-03-28, 9:45AM PST

After years of idealism, I have finally decided that I am sick and fucking tired of helping the disenfranchised and oppressed. I have a master's degree in social work, and I've worked in a number of different settings. I've been a social worker for Children's Protective Services, a therapist on a psych ward, and I've worked as a case manager for a non-profit that shall remain nameless. I've had a number of clients over the years that I would now like to thank for helping me come to the realization that certain people are beyond help.

1) The mother and father who forced their newborn son to nurse from the family dog: Thank you!! I thought it was going to be just another typical Monday morning. You know, examining 4 year olds and finding anal warts encrusting their little rectums, watching 7 year old little Johnny masturbate the way that Daddy taught him to, and removing little Suzie from her home so Mommy wouldn't be able to put cigarettes out on her thighs anymore. Boring, run-of-the-mill stuff. Then you two beautiful people entered my life. Just in time, I might add! I was beginning to think that abusive parents were losing their sense of creativity. Silly me! What's that? Oh, I know it wasn't your fault. Of course not. No, I agree, formula IS really expensive these days. You're absolutely right, sir, it WOULD have been worse to just let the baby starve. Can I ask you just one question though? Do you think that maybe, just maybe, you could have used your WIC voucher to purchase some formula instead of selling it so you could buy a goddam crack rock? Fuck me, you say? Nope. FUCK YOU, you smarmy pile of rhino shit! Fuck you and your crack whore "baby mama". Your child is coming with me! Merry Fucking Christmas!

2) The meth addict with Borderline Personality Disorder: Sweetie, here's a word of advice. When you are in the midst of a legal battle in which your parental rights are at stake, it is BAD for your case if you show up for your weekly supervised visits with your children spun out of your fucking mind. Also, if you're going to have fresh track marks all over your arms, you should at least wear a long sleeve shirt so I can't see them. We talked about this before, remember? I have to write a report to the judge in a few months, and I can't in good conscience recommend that the court return your children to you when you insist on showing up to your weekly visits high as a kite, wearing nothing but a t-shirt and a toothless grin. Also, it does not help your case if you assault me after I inform you that no, you can't see your kids today due to your inebriated state and your exposed vulva. I know you grew up in poverty, and I sympathize with your plight. Hell, I was poor as fuck growing up. My family was broke as a motherfucker. We lived in the projects and never had no cheese for our hamburgers or nuthin. Somehow, though, we still managed to find ourselves some fucking PANTS when we went out IN PUBLIC!

3) The guy who cut his own dick off and left it sitting on the altar at the Catholic church: Dude, the psychiatrist gave you the Haldol for a reason. You should really try taking it every now and then. You're really gonna kick yourself when you come out of this particular episode and realize that your johnson has transubstantiated into the body of Christ. Look, I agree that the Catholic church did some fucked up shit back in the day, but was this really necessary? What exactly did you think you were going to prove? Oh I know, I know, the voices told you to do it. But if the voices told you to go jump off of a bridge, would you do it? Wait, forget I said that.

4) The crackhead mother with 27 cats: I called you in advance to set up our appointment. You KNEW I was going to be at your house that day and that I would be evaluating your progress in making your home habitable so that your kids could be returned to you. So why, oh why did you answer the door with a CRACK PIPE IN YOUR HAND???? Oh, it's not yours? You were just holding onto it for your neighbor? Sure, I'll buy that. Let me ask you something though. Are those your neighbor's cat turds overflowing in the kirchen sink? No, you're right, those litter boxes ARE expensive. Perhaps you shoud consider getting rid of a few of the cats so there will be room for your children. Just a thought. By the way, is that your neighbor's blood coagulating over there on the couch?

5) The crack addict who prostituted her 8 year old son to support her drug habit: Congratulations! You have just managed to turn me into a supporter of the death penalty! What's that? You're concerned about having your little boy placed in an abusive foster home? Oh don't worry, your son is fine, dear. He won't be going to a foster home after all. You see, we had to place him in an institution because he now likes to save his feces in plastic bags so he can use them as lubrication when he jacks off onto women's panties. He also tries to rape other children. What causes him to do such awful things, you ask? Well, I'm not sure dear, but I'll hazard a guess. I could be wrong, but perhaps his current behaviors have something to do with the fact that his MOTHER RENTED OUT HIS ASS TO HUNDREDS OF PEDOPHILES TO SUPPORT HER CRACK HABIT!!!! Bitch, I hope you get ass-raped by Genghis Khan in hell for all eternity. I'd love to beat you upside the head with a tire iron and take a big steaming shit on your chest. I'd probably lose my license if I did that, though.

6) To the woman who didn't want her child to be adopted by those "faggots": It's so refreshing to meet a woman who cares so much about her child for once! You're right, honey. The Bible DOES say that homosexuals are an abomination to God. Tell me, what does the Bible say about punishing your toddler for crying by sticking him with your dirty syringe needles, thereby infecting him with HIV and hepatitis? I know the Bible says "spare the rod and spoil the child", but I don't remember anything about sparing infectuous diseases and spoiling the child. Perhaps you were reading the New International Version? Incidentally, those two "faggots", as you call them, have a few important things to offer your child that you have neglected to provide. What can a couple of faggots offer YOUR child, you ask? Well, first and foremost, they have JOBS!!!! Yes, that's right, JOBS!!!!!!! These jobs provide them with a trivial little thing known as HEALTH INSURANCE, which will be used to cover the medical treatment your child has to receive for the diseases that YOU gave him. These abominations to God are also capable of providing something called a HOME THAT IS NOT INFECTED WITH LICE AND CRACK. Finally, and most importantly, they will give him something known as LOVE. Ever heard of it? Now, kindly go euthanize yourself you miserable cunt.

Ok, I feel much better now. I think I might go back to school for an MBA or something. I'm tired of working to help these people for 60 hours a week at $35,000/year.

Fill in the blanks!

1. Something that makes me a great friend is that I can get along with practically anyone. I also don't get involved in drama.

2. I am a recovering control-freak.

3. I am not fond of birds and I HATE eggs.

4. If I had to describe myself in 3 words, they would be patient, friendly and supportive.

5. Something I'm really cheap about is clothes. I rarely splurge on anything clothing-related that is super-expensive.

6. Something I'm willing to splurge on is HOT YOGA CLASS!!!! So worth the money, I can't say that enough.

7. I would trade my expensive life on Long Island for a simple life in the country in a heartbeat!

Saturday, April 2, 2011


you just need to let it go.

Whatever is bothering you. Whoever is getting under your skin. A goal that you may be struggling to reach, or a difficult problem that you cannot seem to solve.


Letting go is NOT giving up. You will probably come back to it later, and in the meantime, you may even find out the answers you need.

Letting go often means agreeing to disagree, and along the way, we find peace when we do this.

We may even find other things we DO agree on.

Letting go is not necessarily forgiving, but accepting things and people that we cannot change.

When you are having one of those kinds of days, just keep coming back to this thought: LET IT GO.

Friday, April 1, 2011

April Fool's Blanks

1. The best prank I ever pulled was honestly, I can't remember. I'm not really a prankster at all. Probably some kind of trickery on DH at one time or another though.

2. The best prank ever pulled on me was the time my sister and a player friend of mine pretended they were going out.

3. A day without HOT YOGA is a day wasted.

4. The most important things in life are the people that you love who make YOU a priority in their life, as well.

5. I dream of one day moving away from the hustle and bustle of Long Island, and back to a house in the country.

6. I dread not having money to pay the bills.

7. A discovery I made this week was (the same as Lauren) that ants are incredibly resilient. And trying to go green in killing them with borax and sugar does not seem to be working at all.

Made it through another week!

Friday still is, for the most part, my work-from-home day so I thought I would just take a few minutes to check in on the blog.

Right now, DS is sleeping and I am wrapping up a with few client issues. These past few days, I must say, overall were pretty quiet. I was able to catch up on a lot of stuff, paperwork-related primarily.

The week though still was not without its struggles.

I have one client who refuses to go to the psychiatrist (he was just hospitalized for a few weeks too because of his MH issues). He is compliant with all of his other doctors for the most part, so I am trying to get one of them to agree to write his scripts for his psych meds for the time being. I think the thought of having to see a psychiatrist, to him, is a major trigger and something he may never agree to.

Another one is challenging the entire team on special medical equipment that is needed to keep him safe at home. While he has not out and out refused the equipment, he is doing everything in his power to delay it from coming.

The state is also scrutinizing a lot of my clients services more than ever now because of the budget (or lack of!) which has stalled in getting many things approved. In turn, clients often get mad at me because the process takes so long.

Related to this, we have to have a meeting with another client in a couple of weeks so the program can evaluate if they "meet the criteria" to continue to receive services. This conversation obviously did not go over too well when I had to speak to this person and tell them this. This person is also someone who there is absolutely no doubt in my mind, who requires the services of our program to continue to remain in the community. Everyone on her team is coming to advocate for her.

It's bad everywhere right now I think in terms of services and resources in general for people at risk. I spent the better part of the afternoon yesterday researching day program options for one of my people, and there's just nothing really out there that he can qualify for right now for a variety of reasons. Le Sigh.

I am looking forward to the next couple of days to decompress and then I will be back in the saddle with bells on again next week to help work through some more of the world's problems.

Have a nice weekend everyone and thanks for stopping by!