Saturday, October 20, 2012

Rough week

It's been a pretty rough week.

DS developed strep throat, and even though he's on the mend now, his behavior has been pretty challenging.

It also has gotten to the point where it is causing a lot of tension between myself and DH.

We feel like we can't do anything "normal" people do, because we don't know what kind of mood DS is going to be in and how he is going to respond when we take him out to places.

A trip to Target last night turned into a battle because he spotted a toy he wanted, which in turn, lead to a major meltdown when he was told no. DH took him out of the store and he got out of his arms and tried to run through the parking lot.

DH scooped him up and yelled and a bunch of people looked over like we were all out of our minds.

Last week, we tried to take DS to his favorite pizzeria, and when the waiter unknowingly set a knife down next to DS and we took it away, this triggered his horns to come out.

DH ended up walking him home from the pizzeria and it took him about 30 minutes to stop screaming.

Weekends when I am home with him continue to be tough as well. He has his routine. Which generally involves playing with certain toys and watching certain shows.

If I try to interest him in something else this also more often than not, leads to major meltdown mode. Even encouraging him to go outside or to a place he enjoys has become too much of a transition.

Yesterday on a major highway, he climbed out of his carseat and stood in the backseat.

He also has this thing about not having clothes touching him, so he will frequently strip down and start throwing them towards me while I am driving, which is obviously very unsafe.

At home, it continues to be a battle to keep any kind of clothing item on him at all.

Yesterday, we were in a car lane at the bank, depositing my check, and he started yelling and growling at the top of his lungs towards a little girl in the car next to us. It was in a threatening manner and not the least bit cute.

The mother actually rolled down her window to console me, but I still felt like an idiot.

I really don't know how much more of this we can take.

He continues to act similarly with my ILs and especially towards his cousins.

Surprisingly, the school reports are all glowing, so I really don't know what gives in that department.

I was supposed to meet his behavior person yesterday, but cancelled the session because of his strep.

We shall see what next week brings, and hopefully make it through the weekend.

On another sad note, I've lost the momentum for my yoga challenge this month. I got sick recently, went away for a few days, and between all that's going on with DS, I just haven't been able to, or even wanted to go. I have been to 7 classes so far this month, so I am going to try to make it to 15 instead of the 20 if I can.........

Send us strength and positive vibes over here. We really need it right now.


  1. WOW! I don't know how you mothers do it! That sounds really rough. I hope things continue to look up for you guys and you figure out what's triggering some of these challenging behaviors so you can fix them early. :) Positive vibes sent! You are not sent more than you can handle, so someone must think you are one tough cookie!

  2. Thanks :) Just trying to adopt the day by day mentality. A lightbulb also went off and I think since he's spent less time outdoors because change in weather/getting darker earlier, this may be a trigger as well because he can't be as active/get out his frustrations.

  3. Wow, that sounds really rough! I can only imagine what you're going through with your son, and on top of that you have a stressful career as a social worker! Best of luck in everything, and hopefully things start to improve really soon!

  4. Thanks :) I appreciate your support.

  5. Yep, good point with your son and seasonal changes. A couple of days without sun outside, I am more moody.
    Yes, you were blessed with a son to challenge everything you knew about yourself... so ride with it, and inject some humor in it. He probably is cued in to your anger, and likes the control when you are over-it-all. If you go get him when he takes off with a smile, it might interject some love he will then pick up...but worst case would be you feel better.
    We all have challenges and I got bi-lateral strokes from a Doctor's error. Nearly 20 years post, and I am still dealing with the significant impact.....what works best..humor and a smile.