I've written about this a little on here before when I went to help identify the body of a former client with a colleague.
Today I attended a wake for the first time, for a client who passed. There were many emotions going through my mind at once. Awkward, yet nice seems to describe it best. I was able to see the client was finally at peace. I also felt acknowledged, that even though I was no longer working with her, the family still remembered me and my efforts with someone who could be extremely difficult to work with to say the least.
I went back and forth over the past couple of days on whether or not it was appropriate for me to attend, what would I say, how would I feel, would it be upsetting for me and how would the family feel about that...........but in the end I am glad I went.
The hardest part was deciding it was okay for me to go.